Intimacy is not limited to relationships of a romantic nature, nor is it automatic and natural in romantic or familial relationships. It can take years to build with some, an instant to form with others.
The first thought that pops into my head upon hearing the word 'intimacy' is 'physical'...being comfortable enough to let another person discover your flaws and being confident that despite those flaws, they'd still want to discover your perfections.
Two senses I associate with intimacy (and which are heightened) are smell and touch.
I think one can only be truly intimate with someone if there is a mutual attraction on a chemical level, which has nothing and everything to do with physical appearance. Nothing, because it does not solely rely on aesthetics; and everything, because without a physical attraction to a person, intimacy will be impossible...and attraction itself is subjective, what appeals to one may not to the other.
But, what truly takes intimacy to its peak is a mutual attraction for the qualities that are unseen-a mental and emotional intimacy. Being able to communicate, cause a reaction or inspire a feeling through non-verbal and non-tacit means...be it a single look or a thoughtful gesture...
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